Newsletter: Be Messy or Be Messi (March 15, 2024)
- Sean McCormick
- Mar 15, 2024
- 5 min read
Updated: Jul 30
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Recently, I've found myself repeating the quote "Be Messy or Be Messi" to friends, family, and colleagues, and I wanted to bring you in on the secret.
The "Be Messy" part communicates the importance of taking messy action and getting started on things, rather than waiting for the perfect moment (which never comes).
To "Be Messi" is the other side of the coin, which is being the best in the world at something, a nod to the world-famous soccer player, Lionel Messi (he was named the world's best player for a record eight times by FIFA 🤯).
Given its pretty hard to "Be Messi," it's in our best interest to "Be Messy" as much as possible.
Let's explore how you can put this concept into action in your own life.
How to take messy action
When faced with something challenging or overwhelming, instead of shrinking to avoid it, you can put your best foot forward and learn from the experience.
For example, this newsletter gives me a weekly chance to do that.
Knowing that this newsletter is read by people I respect and want to add value to their lives, I challenge myself to create something authentic and meaningful every week.
Of course, every week, my lizard brain starts to create excuse after excuse as to why I shouldn't publish something this week. Here are a few that are circulating this week:
I have not done enough drafts
No one else has proofread it
My original concept is not working out, so I'll shelve it this week
I've got too many other things on my plate
My thoughts are too scattered
I can't top last week
(Ad infinitum)
Here is my secret. I just put sh*t out there. If you go back and look at my first YouTube videos, they are absolute crap (please don't actually do that).
But over time, by just being messy, I've learned how to create a quality product that helps people move from point A to point B.
How do I teach this concept to students?
If you are wondering how to teach this concept to your students, here are a few ideas for you to play with.
Focus on process, more than outcomes
While I am a person who believes in results, and I use many features of a ROWE in my leadership philosophy, I firmly believe that to get better results, it is better not to focus on results.
To apply this in your classroom or coaching sessions, get clear on the routines that you can set up that you believe will foster student success.
When I ran a Counseling Enriched Classroom for students returning home from residential treatment, I built routines that encouraged and rewarded students to take messy action, every day.
Here are a few of them:
Have students start their day with a journal prompt
When students walked into the classroom, there was a journal prompt on the large screen. By getting their thoughts on paper, they immediately startstudent's their day by creating something. I also made it a point to buy each of my students a Moleskin journal so they felt the joy of keeping their thoughts in a traditional leather diary.
Make sure everyone has a job
Once students completed their journal entry, there was a large chart with their names and a small job running up and down the Y-axis and Monday through Friday running along the X-axis. These jobs included things like:
Restocking printer paper
Organizing the supplies area
Taking students' tea orders
Making coffee/tea
On the table chart, each of them would check off that they completed their job for that day, which was expected to be completed in the morning after their journal prompt.
Overall, the focus was on showing up and engaging, rather than some nebulous form of unachievable perfect.
Encourage students to share drafts in advance
One of the best ways to put this practice into action, is to encourage your students to share their drafts in advance, so they can make changes BEFORE something is graded.
Hi (Teacher Name),
I’ve been working on the assignments, (assignment name) for your class and have completed a draft of it.
Would you please review it and provide me with feedback on how I can get closer to achieving my goal of earning a (desired grade) on this assignment?
Also, is there anything else you suggest I do to work toward my goal of earning a (desired grade) in your class?
Thank you for your guidance.
Sincerely,
(Your Name)
If you like this template, you can download this and more in my Semester Success Blueprint course.
The bottom line
If you are feeling stuck, start by taking action. The process of taking action is incredibly clarifying and in many domains, often produces better work than things that are overly analyzed.
Journal Prompt
Where in your life could you take messy action, rather than "waiting for the right moment"?
(If you need some accountability, just reply to this email with your thoughts -- I actually read every response)
Want more of this?
If you are interested in having me run a workshop or speak to your teachers, parents, or staff about these concepts, check out my speaking page.
Other resources
Hope this helps 🤙🏻
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About Me
Hey! I'm Sean 👋
I'm a former public school special education teacher who realized that executive function skills are more important than knowing when George Washington crossed the Potomac.
Since then, I've made it my mission to teach anyone who will listen about how to develop these key life skills.
In 2020, I founded Executive Function Specialists to ensure all students with ADHD and Autism have access to high-quality online executive function coaching services. We offer online EF coaching and courses to help students and families.
Realizing I could only reach so many people through coaching, in 2021 I started the Executive Function Coaching Academy which trains schools, educators, and individuals to learn the key strategies to improve executive function skills for students.
In 2023, I co-founded of UpSkill Specialists, to provide neurodivergent adults with high-quality executive function coaching services.
When not pursuing my passions through work, I love spending time with my family, getting exercise, and growing my brain through reading. You can connect with me on LinkedIn.
Want me to speak on executive function skills at your event? Learn more about my speaking topics here.